落單是危險的Being Alone Is Dangerous
無論什麼時候,落單都是危險的。分居和離婚的時候,落單更危險。請不要一個人撐。
At any time, being alone is dangerous. While you are separated or divorcing, being alone is even more dangerous. Please do not carry this by yourself.
求救指令:請照著做Help Instruction: Please Do Exactly This
如果你現在不安全、有想傷害自己的念頭,或正被人傷害:請先打當地的緊急電話。我們的信箱不是即時的。
If you are not safe right now, have thoughts of hurting yourself, or are being harmed: call your local emergency number first. Our mailbox is not real-time.
情況一:你是有機心田的人(你有小組和零負擔同伴)→ 請馬上求救,而且要說得具體。現在就打電話給你的小組或零負擔同伴,不要等,不要只傳訊息,對他們說:「我現在需要你們。我現在在____。我現在有____的念頭。請現在就有人來陪我。」請他們現在就陪著你,不讓你一個人待著。也請你同時寫信到 Me2Us2We@gmail.com,主旨寫:【求救】,讓我們知道。
Case 1: You are one of us (you have a group and Zero-Burden companions) → ask for help right now, and be specific. Call your group or Zero-Burden companions now; do not wait, and do not only send a message. Say: “I need you now. I am at ____. I am having thoughts of ____. Please have someone be with me now.” Ask them to stay with you so that you are not alone. Please also write to Me2Us2We@gmail.com at the same time, with the subject: 【求救】, so that we know.
情況二:你不是我們小組的人 → 請與我們聯絡。寫信到 Me2Us2We@gmail.com,主旨一個字都不要改,寫:【求救】(這就是通關指令,主旨有這兩個字,我們會優先看)。信裡用三句話寫:(1) 我現在安全嗎?(安全 / 不安全 / 不確定)(2) 我現在最需要什麼?(3) 可以怎麼聯絡到我?(寫一種你方便的方式)
Case 2: You are not in our group → please contact us. Write to Me2Us2We@gmail.com, and do not change the subject by even one character. Write: 【求救】 (this is the passphrase; letters with these two characters in the subject are read first). In the letter, write three lines: (1) Am I safe now? (safe / not safe / not sure) (2) What do I need most right now? (3) How can you reach me? (give one way that is convenient for you)
寫信:主旨【求救】 Write: subject 【求救】我們每天檢查這個信箱,但不是即時;收到後,我們會親自回信。
We check this mailbox every day, but not in real time; once we receive your letter, we will reply personally.
安全第一Safety Comes First
如果你正處在暴力裡(包括身體的暴力,也包括情緒與言語的暴力:辱罵、恐嚇、威脅、羞辱、控制、孤立,以及站在道德高處的指責與審判),或你很怕對方,請先放下這份手冊,把安全放在第一位。
If you are facing violence (physical violence, and also emotional and verbal violence: insults, intimidation, threats, shaming, control, isolation, and accusation or judgment from a position of moral high ground), or you are afraid of your spouse, put this handbook down first and put safety first.
請現在聯絡當地的緊急電話,以及當地的家庭暴力求助專線,也告訴你的小組(至少三個人)。
Please contact your local emergency number and a local domestic-violence helpline now, and tell your group (at least three people).
如果你有想傷害自己的念頭,請不要一個人撐著:馬上聯絡當地的緊急電話或自殺防治專線,並讓你的小組或身邊的人現在就陪在你身邊;請走向一個安全的人或安全的地方,並立刻告訴你信任的人。請照最上面的「求救指令」做:有小組的人馬上求救;不是我們小組的人,請寫信給我們,主旨寫【求救】。
If you have thoughts of hurting yourself, please do not carry them alone: contact your local emergency number or a suicide-prevention line right away, and have your group or the people near you be with you now; move toward a safe person or a safe place, and tell someone you trust immediately. Please follow the Help Instruction at the very top: if you are in a group, ask for help at once; if you are not in our group, write to us with the subject 【求救】.
如果你長期睡不著、吃不下,或已經撐不住日常的生活,請去找醫師或其他專業的醫療人員。
If you have gone a long time without sleeping or eating, or can no longer manage daily life, please see a doctor or another medical professional.
如果有人一直用話語攻擊你、恐嚇你、威脅你,或逼你做你不願意的事,這件事你不必一個人承受。請告訴你的小組(至少三個人),並找專業的人;如果這些話讓你覺得自己不配活著,請立刻聯絡緊急電話或自殺防治專線。
If someone keeps attacking you with words, frightening or threatening you, or pressing you to do what you do not want to do, you do not have to carry that alone. Please tell your group (at least three people) and go to a professional; if those words make you feel that you do not deserve to live, contact your local emergency number or a suicide-prevention line immediately.
如果你發現自己正在用話語攻擊、恐嚇或咒詛別人,請現在就停下來,告訴你的小組。完整手冊的第四段談舌頭。
If you find that you yourself are attacking, frightening, or cursing someone with words, please stop now and tell your group. Section 4 of the full handbook speaks about the tongue.
這份手冊不能取代這些專業的幫助,也不會要你留在讓你不安全的地方。
This handbook cannot replace such professional help, and it will never ask you to stay in a place where you are not safe.
請在狀況還好的時候,就先把這三個電話寫在一張紙上:當地的緊急電話、當地的家庭暴力求助專線、自殺防治專線。完整手冊最後有一張轉介單,可以填寫。
While you are doing all right, write three numbers on a piece of paper: your local emergency number, a local domestic-violence helpline, and a suicide-prevention line. The full handbook ends with a referral sheet you can fill in.
這份手冊是什麼What This Handbook Is
《陪伴手冊:給分居、離婚中、已離婚的年輕人》是我們自己寫的,給正走在這一段路上的年輕人。
“Companion Handbook: For Young Adults Who Are Separated, Divorcing, or Divorced” is something we wrote ourselves, for young adults who are walking this stretch of road.
這份手冊陪伴你走這一段路。要不要離婚,由你自己決定,手冊不替你決定。
This handbook walks alongside you on this road. Whether to divorce is your decision; the handbook will not make it for you.
我們也不替你貼標籤。你比「分居的人」「離婚的人」這幾個字大得多。
We also will not put a label on you. You are far larger than the words “separated” or “divorced.”
- 請先讀你現在所在的那一段就好,其他段落等你需要時再讀。Please read only the section where you are now; read the others when you need them.
- 如果你和你的另一半都在讀這份手冊,請各自讀,各自和自己的四人小組或零負擔團隊一起看(同性別、至少三個人)。我們從不做一對一,至少三個人一起。先不要和對方一起讀,也不要拿這份手冊去對照對方、指出對方該讀哪一句。還在發炎、很痛的時候,一起讀只會變成互相指責。If you and your spouse are both reading this handbook, please read it separately, each with your own four-person group or Zero-Burden team (same gender, at least three people). We never meet one-on-one; always at least three people together. Do not read it together with your spouse for now, and do not use it to compare against your spouse or to point out which line your spouse should read. While the wound is still inflamed and raw, reading together only turns into blaming each other.
- 手冊裡有許多「可以問自己的問題」。你可以把答案寫在另一張紙上,因為把想法寫下來、親眼看見,有時就會帶來改變。The handbook has many questions you can ask yourself. You can write your answers on a separate sheet of paper, because writing your thoughts down and seeing them can itself change things.
- 如果你是陪伴別人的人,完整手冊有一段是特別為你寫的。If you are someone who accompanies others, the full handbook has a section written especially for you.
- 每一段的最後,都有一個小小的練習:這週,誰會知道你今天讀了這份手冊?請說出你的小組是誰(至少三個人)。Each section ends with one small practice: this week, who will know that you read this handbook today? Name your group (at least three people).
這是以耶穌為中心、在恩典中成熟的陪伴;不是醫療、法律或其他專業的服務,也不取代它們。
This is Christ-centered companionship for maturing in Grace — not a medical, legal, or other professional service, and not a substitute for one.
怎麼向我們索取完整手冊How to Ask Us for the Full Handbook
完整手冊現在是試用版 v1,先給小範圍的人試用,所以不公開貼在這個網站上,而是用私人連結寄給你。
The full handbook is Trial Version 1 for now, offered to a small circle first. So it is not posted on this website; we send it to you by a private link.
想要的話,請寫信到 Me2Us2We@gmail.com,主旨寫:【索取手冊】。信裡用三句話寫:(1) 你要繁體還是簡體?(2) 你有沒有小組(至少三個人)?沒有也可以寫。(3) 可以怎麼聯絡到你?(寫一種你方便的方式)
If you would like it, write to Me2Us2We@gmail.com with the subject: 【索取手冊】. In the letter, write three lines: (1) Do you want Traditional or Simplified Chinese? (2) Do you have a group (at least three people)? You may write that you do not. (3) How can we reach you? (give one way that is convenient for you)
寫信:主旨【索取手冊】 Write: subject 【索取手冊】我們每天檢查這個信箱,但不是即時;收到後,我們會親自回信,附上私人連結。
We check this mailbox every day, but not in real time; once we receive your letter, we will reply personally with the private link.
不想等的話,也可以先讀公開版:只放我們自己寫的內容,可以直接讀。陪伴手冊(公開版)
If you would rather not wait, you can read the public edition now: it holds only what we wrote ourselves. Companion Handbook (Public Edition)
如果你現在需要的是求救,請回到最上面的紅色一段,主旨寫【求救】。
If what you need right now is help, go back to the red box at the top and use the subject 【求救】.
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