他說，一個選擇如果讓良心有一點遲疑、有一點卡住，就要停下來注意那股張力——不要開始說服自己，開始傾聽。He says when a choice leaves even a small hesitation in the conscience, that's the moment to stop and notice the tension — not sell yourself on it, listen to it.
我們很少需要說服自己 We rarely have to sell ourselves
他說，我們很少需要說服自己做一件好事——如果一件事需要反覆對自己解釋為什麼可以做，那個反覆解釋的動作本身，可能就是那股張力在說話。He says we rarely have to sell ourselves on a good idea — if something requires repeatedly explaining to ourselves why it's okay, that repeated explaining may itself be the tension speaking.
我們告訴自己的故事 The stories we tell ourselves
在同一個系列裡，他講過一個年輕人的故事：他在一個富裕的家庭長大，後來家裡的財產因為父親的錯誤決定而流失。他從小聽媽媽責怪爸爸，就給自己下了一個結論：我不懂錢，我不是理財的人。長大以後，他真的活成了他告訴自己的那個樣子——直到有一天，他發現「爸爸的錯誤決定」從來不是他自己的故事，他才願意改寫它，現在他很懂得管理錢。In the same series, he tells the story of a young man raised in a wealthy family whose fortune was lost through his father's poor decisions. Growing up hearing his mother blame his father, the young man concluded: I don't understand money, I'm not a money person. He grew up to become exactly that — until the day he realized his father's mistake was never his own story to carry, and he was willing to rewrite it. Today he manages money well.
這讓我們問自己：我心裡有沒有一個從別人那裡繼承來的故事,一直被我當成自己的事實在活？That leaves us asking ourselves: is there a story we inherited from someone else that we've been living out as if it were our own truth?
身邊的智慧聲音 The wise voices around us
他用舊約列王紀上的一段故事收束：所羅門死後，他的兒子羅波安要繼位，年長的臣子建議他減輕父親加在百姓身上的重擔，換取百姓甘心事奉；跟他一起長大的年輕臣子卻慫恿他把擔子加得更重。羅波安選了年輕人的話，結果百姓當場拒絕他，國家從此分裂。He closes with a story from 1 Kings: after Solomon's death, his son Rehoboam is about to become king. The elders who served his father advise him to lighten the burden on the people, in exchange for their willing service; the young men he grew up with urge him to make it heavier instead. Rehoboam listens to the young men — and the people reject him on the spot. The kingdom splits.
他說，這個故事的重點不是羅波安運氣不好,是他身邊只剩下需要他、或想從他身上得到什麼的人——那些真正認識所羅門、也認識他自己看不見的地方的年長臣子,他沒有給他們位置。He says the point of the story isn't that Rehoboam had bad luck — it's that he had surrounded himself only with people who needed him, or wanted something from him. The elders who actually knew Solomon, and knew the blind spots Rehoboam couldn't see in himself, had no place at his table.
這讓我們想起：一個人很少是聽不見張力,是身邊沒有人被允許把張力講出來——這正是我們相信的,一個人常常需要身邊的人,才看得清自己身上的張力。That reminds us: a person rarely can't hear the tension — more often, no one around them has been given permission to say it out loud. That's exactly what we believe: we often need the people around us in order to see the tension in ourselves clearly.
今天，如果心裡有一件事讓你反覆解釋給自己聽，可以停下來，告訴身邊一個人——不是自己一個人消化到底。If there's something today you keep explaining to yourself, stop and tell someone — don't process it all the way through alone.
引自 Andy Stanley「How Not To Be Your Own Worst Enemy」系列，2019-2021 年（Part 2「Pay Attention to Your Narratives」、Part 3「Listen」）。系列第一集主題是「注意那股張力」，本頁引用的「注意張力」「很少需要說服自己」兩句話出自 Part 3 開頭的回顧段落。
Quoted from Andy Stanley's series "How Not To Be Your Own Worst Enemy," 2019-2021 (Part 2 "Pay Attention to Your Narratives," Part 3 "Listen"). The series opener's theme was "pay attention to the tension" — the two lines quoted on this page come from Part 3's recap of that opening session.