他說：「最難帶領的人，是鏡子裡那個人。」He says: "The most difficult person to lead is the person in the mirror."
想像自己的葬禮 Imagine your own funeral
他說，31 歲讀到一個練習：想像自己的葬禮，寫下希望配偶、孩子、朋友會說自己什麼——他花了兩三個早上寫完，最後濃縮成七個形容詞，三十多年沒改過。這七個字沒有一個跟他擁有什麼、賺多少錢有關，全部跟品格有關；這七個字成了他行為的邊界，一旦違反，他不允許自己說「這只是個小失誤」，堅持稱它「失敗」。He says at 31 he did an exercise: imagining his own funeral, writing what he'd want his spouse, children, and friends to say — it took him two or three mornings, and he narrowed it down to seven adjectives that haven't changed in thirty years. None of the seven relate to what he owns or earns — all relate to character; they've become the boundary of his behavior, and when he crosses one, he refuses to call it "a mistake" — he insists on calling it "failure."
主動邀請被更正 Actively inviting correction
他說，三個承諾裡的第三個，是不試圖蒙混過關——主動邀請向自己報告的人，對自己說真話、提出反對意見。他直接承認，位階真實存在，他跟下屬之間「有關係，但不是同一種關係」，沒有假裝完全對等。He says the third of three commitments is not trying to get away with things — actively inviting the people who report to him to speak the truth and raise objections. He openly admits that a power gap really exists; he has "a relationship, but not the same relationship" with those under him, without pretending it's fully equal.
這讓我們問自己一個問題：他承認位階真實存在、只是選擇主動邀請更正；我們沒有他那種位階，那我們是不是反而更容易忘記——不管有沒有位階，願不願意被更正，永遠是自己要主動選的事？That leaves us asking ourselves a question: he admits the power gap is real and simply chooses to invite correction anyway. We don't have his kind of hierarchy — so are we, in fact, more likely to forget that whether or not there's a power gap, being open to correction is always a choice someone has to actively make?
並肩最先面對的，是自己這一關 The first thing standing side by side has to face is ourselves
「最難帶領的人，是鏡子裡那個人」，這句話讓我們往前多想一步：我們常說並肩、沒有誰帶誰，但這句話提醒我們，並肩最先要面對的，也是自己這一關，不是先去看對方走得好不好。"The most difficult person to lead is the person in the mirror" pushes us one step further: we often say we walk side by side with no one leading — but this line reminds us that the first person we have to face on that road is ourselves, not how well the other person is walking.
他說失敗是離開自己認定的價值，不管結果好不好——這句話讓我們想起，我們常談的那個落差：一個人知道該怎麼做，跟真的做得到，中間常常有一段距離，這段距離不管是他還是我們自己身上出現，都值得誠實標記出來。這是我們自己加上去的一層，不是他講過的話。His definition of failure — leaving one's own values, regardless of outcome — reminds us of a gap we often name: the distance between knowing what to do and actually doing it. Whether that gap shows up in him or in us, it deserves to be honestly named. That's a layer we've added ourselves, not something he said.
今天，可以寫下三個形容詞——你希望最親近的人，會用什麼字形容你的品格，不是你的成就。Write down three adjectives today — words you hope the people closest to you would use for your character, not your achievements.
引自 Andy Stanley Leadership Podcast「Great Leaders Lead Themselves Well, Part 2」，2026 年 8 月 ·
Quoted from the Andy Stanley Leadership Podcast, "Great Leaders Lead Themselves Well, Part 2," August 2026.
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📖 經文 Scripture
「鐵磨鐵，磨出刃來；朋友相感，也是如此。」（箴言 27:17）
"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." (Proverbs 27:17)
邀請被更正，是主動把自己放進「被磨」的位置，不等別人先動手。Inviting correction means putting yourself into the position of being sharpened, on purpose, without waiting for someone else to make the first move.