她說，國中時她去一所中輟生學校做志工，才第一次意識到自己一路的順遂，多半是幸運，不是應得。She says that in middle school, volunteering at a school for at-risk youth was the first time she realized how much of her own smooth path had come from luck, not merit.
標籤來的時候 When the labels come
她說，「正妹」「人生勝利組」這些標籤引來批評的時候，她選擇的不是為自己辯護，而是誠實面對那些聲音，把自我主張慢慢縮小。She says that when labels like "pretty girl" or "born a winner" drew criticism, she chose not to defend herself, but to honestly sit with those voices, and let her own self-assertion shrink.
這讓我們問自己一個問題：當有人誤解我、給我貼標籤的時候，我第一個反應是證明自己，還是誠實聽一聽？That leaves us asking ourselves a question: when someone misunderstands us or labels us, is our first move to prove ourselves, or to honestly listen?
兩個完整的圓 Two whole circles
她說，一段健康的關係是兩個完整的圓——我不需要依靠你存在，你也不需要依靠我存在，但彼此在一起，會有一加一大於二的效果。She says a healthy relationship is two whole circles — I don't need you to exist, you don't need me to exist, but together, there's a one-plus-one-greater-than-two effect.
這句話讓我們想起，一段真正並肩的關係，不是靠誰撐著誰才站得住的，是兩個已經站得住的人，選擇走在一起。她的「兩個完整的圓」讓我們往前多想一步：一段關係如果有一邊要靠另一邊才能站得住，那不是並肩，是撐著。我們想問自己——我跟身邊的人，是兩個圓，還是一個圓在扶著另一個半圓？That reminds us: a relationship that truly stands side by side isn't one person propping up another — it's two people who can already stand on their own, choosing to walk together. Her "two whole circles" pushes us one step further: if one side of a relationship needs the other to stand, that isn't standing side by side — that's propping up. We're left asking ourselves: with the people around us, are we two circles, or one circle holding up someone else's half?
妳哪來的勇氣 Where does your courage come from
她把「妳哪來的勇氣」這個問題，重新定義成「妳有多知道自己在乎跟想要的是什麼」。She redefines "where does your courage come from" into "how well do you know what you care about and what you want."
她說「我只是幸運」，這句話讓我們想起，飽滿不是用來證明自己配得，是用來給的。這是我們自己加上去的一層，不是她講過的話。Her "I was just lucky" reminds us that fullness isn't there to prove we deserve it — it's there to be given away. That's a layer we've added ourselves, not something she said.
今天，可以問自己一句：我在乎的、我想要的，到底是什麼？答得出來，勇氣常常就跟著來了。Ask yourself today: what do I actually care about, what do I actually want? Once you can answer, courage often follows.
引自劉安婷 2016 年天下雜誌《女人．辦公桌》專訪「女性要學會擁抱自己」·
Quoted from Anting Liu's 2016 CommonWealth Magazine interview, "Women Need to Learn to Embrace Themselves."
「我要稱謝你，因我受造，奇妙可畏；你的作為奇妙，這是我心深知道的。」（詩篇 139:14）
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." (Psalm 139:14)
擁抱自己是誰，最先不是靠比較贏來的，是造我們的那一位早就說了算。Embracing who you are doesn't start with winning a comparison — the one who made us already settled the matter.