她說，19 歲那年她開始在美國青年監獄教書，教了快三年。她走進教室的第一堂課，學生只問她兩個問題：有沒有男朋友，還有——你為什麼來。She says that at nineteen, she began teaching in a U.S. youth prison, for nearly three years. On her first day, her students asked her only two questions: do you have a boyfriend, and — why did you come?
兩年之後，他們沒有問 Two years later, they stopped asking
她說這個問題他們問了兩年，每一週都問。直到某一天她背對著學生寫黑板，忽然發現背脊發涼——他們沒有問。She says they asked that question every week for two years. Until one day, writing on the board with her back turned, she suddenly felt a chill — they hadn't asked.
這讓我們問自己一個不容易回答的問題：如果有人一直問我「你為什麼來」，我撐得住兩年都給不出一個讓對方滿意的答案嗎？That leaves us asking ourselves a question we can't easily answer: if someone kept asking us "why did you come," could we stand two years without an answer that satisfied them?
校長與 Jackie The principal, and Jackie
她說，學校的校長覺得一個學生太麻煩，把他放在教室角落不管；老師 Jackie 卻每天放學陪他盪鞦韆、陪他把功課寫完才讓他回家。She says the principal found one student too much trouble and left him in the corner of the classroom, unmanaged; a teacher named Jackie instead swung with him on the playground every day after school and stayed until his homework was done before letting him go home.
校長那句「太麻煩」是由上而下的處理；Jackie 每天留下來陪他，是不同的樣子——不是處理一個問題學生，是跟一個孩子站在一起。The principal's "too much trouble" is handling someone from above; Jackie staying every day is a different shape entirely — not handling a problem student, but standing beside a child.
起心動念，比技術重要 Motive matters more than method
她說，技術跟方法都是外圍的，最終是關於跟學生建立的關係——起心動念如果不見了，再好的技術跟理論都沒有用。She says technique and method are peripheral — what matters most is the relationship built with a student. If the motive disappears, no amount of good technique or theory helps.
Jackie 陪伴那個孩子的故事，讓我們問自己三個問題：我願意每天出現多久？我願意先了解、不急著把自己的答案塞給對方嗎？我願意讓孩子自己開始寫功課，而不是逼他寫嗎？Jackie's story leaves us asking three questions of ourselves: how long are we willing to show up every day? Are we willing to understand first, instead of rushing to hand over our own answer? Are we willing to let a child start doing homework on their own, instead of forcing it?
「你為什麼來」這句話，讓我們往前多想一步：一個人問不出這句話的時候，不代表問題消失了，是代表他終於敢相信你會留下來聽答案。這是我們自己加上去的一層，不是她講過的話。"Why did you come" pushes us one step further: when someone stops asking, it doesn't mean the question disappeared — it means they've finally dared to trust you'll stay long enough to hear the answer. That's a layer we've added ourselves, not something she said.
今天，可以留給一個人多五分鐘——不是為了解決他的問題，是為了讓他知道，你還會在。Give someone five extra minutes today — not to solve their problem, just so they know you'll still be there.
引自劉安婷 2014 年「2014 udn talks 聯合大講堂」演講「給自己一個冒險的理由」（劉安婷）·
Quoted from Anting Liu's 2014 udn talks address, "Give Yourself a Reason to Take a Risk."
「愛裡沒有懼怕，愛既完全，就把懼怕除去。」（約翰一書 4:18）
"There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear." (1 John 4:18)
她自己也引了這節經文作結——「你為什麼來」問到最後，答案如果是愛，懼怕就留不住了。She herself closes with this verse — when "why did you come" is finally answered with love, fear has nowhere left to stay.