The Emotional Maturity Self-Check — the Unborn stage
任務清單 vs. 任務失敗清單 —— 生命成長路徑的紀錄The task list and the task-failure list — a record of the road you are actually walking
左邊中文是原文,右邊英文並列——不是為了好看,是為了讓你隨時對得回原意。翻譯會偏,原文不會。The Chinese on the left is the original; the English runs beside it — not for decoration, but so you can always check a line back against what was meant. Translations drift; originals don't.
這一頁放的是整份檢測表的第一段:胎兒期。四項任務、四項任務失敗,勾選和填日期的方式跟完整版一模一樣——先真的用用看,不必先答應任何事。This page carries the first stretch of the sheet: the Unborn stage. Four tasks, four task-failures. Ticking and dating work exactly as they do in the full sheet — try it for real first, without promising anyone anything.
這份表怎麼用How to use this sheet
這不是一次性打勾就結束的考卷,是一份會反覆用一輩子的紀錄表。同一個任務,你可能今年達到了,三年後在壓力底下又困住,五年後又走出來——每一次都算,每一次都值得記下來。This is not an exam you tick once and are done with. It is a record you will come back to for a lifetime. The same task may be reached this year, lost again under pressure three years from now, and walked back out of two years after that — every one of those counts, and every one is worth writing down.
每一項任務、每一項任務失敗的描述後面,都可以填日期。達到的每一次,寫下日期;困住的每一次,也寫下日期。不用一次填滿,這張表會陪你很多年。自己勾選、自己填,不必給任何人看,這是你和神之間、你和自己成長路徑之間的紀錄。Behind every task and every task-failure there is room for dates. Every time you reach it, write the date. Every time you are stuck, write that date too. You are not meant to fill it in one sitting; this sheet will keep you company for years. You tick it yourself, you fill it yourself, and you never have to show it to anyone — it is a record between you and God, and between you and the road you have walked.
這份表的骨架:每一階的任務,其實就是五個輪子(1 依戀 → 2 定義 → 3 連結 → 4 喜樂 → 心 → 回到 1 → 5 邏輯)在那一階實際能不能轉起來;任務失敗清單,很多時候是敵對(需要沒被回應時,對別人的攻擊,或對自己的僵住封閉)找到的出口。看清楚自己卡在哪一項、卡在哪個日期,就是回到三、回到屬靈家庭陪伴的起點。The frame behind this sheet: the tasks of each stage are simply whether the five wheels (1 attachment → 2 definition → 3 connection → 4 joy → the heart → back to 1 → 5 logic) can actually turn at that stage. The task-failure list is, most of the time, the outlet that hostility found — the attack on others, or the freezing and shutting down inside, when a need went unanswered. Seeing clearly which item you are stuck on, and on which date, is itself the starting point of returning to wheel 3, and to the company of a spiritual family.
🛡️ 你填的東西只留在你自己的瀏覽器裡,不會上傳、不會寄出、我們這邊看不到,也沒有任何伺服器收得到。
⚠️ 也因為這樣:清除瀏覽器資料、換一台裝置、用無痕視窗,紀錄就不見了。填完請按「匯出備份檔」存下來——那個檔案才是你真正帶得走的紀錄,以後可以再匯入回來。🛡️ Everything you enter stays in your own browser. Nothing is uploaded, nothing is emailed, we cannot see it, and no server ever receives it.
⚠️ Which also means: clearing your browser data, switching devices, or using a private window will lose the record. Use "Export a backup file" and keep the file — that file is the record you actually carry with you, and you can import it back later.
路還沒走完 · The road goes further
這一頁只是第一段。後面還有六段。This is one stretch of seven
整份表有七段:從這裡開始,一路到學會休息、到相信一次身份的轉變不會要了自己的命、到敢正確使用力量而不拿它自保、到讓耶穌說最後一句話,再到有人跟著你長大、有一群人把重量交在你手上的那兩段。The whole sheet runs seven stretches: from here, on through learning to rest, through trusting that one change of identity will not cost you your life, through daring to use power rightly instead of for self-protection, through letting Jesus have the last word — and then the two about someone growing up behind you, and a group of people putting its weight in your hands.
後面六段不放在公開的地方,原因很簡單:那些清單一個人對著看沒有用。愈往後面,任務失敗清單寫的就愈不是「你會受什麼傷」,而是「別人會因為你受什麼傷」——那種東西得有人跟你一起看,而且那個人得認得你平常的樣子。所以完整的七段在學員區,跟著真的有人陪的操練一起走。The other six are not out in the open, for a simple reason: those lists are useless read alone. The further along you go, the less the task-failure list is about what will wound you and the more it is about who gets wounded because of you — and that has to be read with someone who knows what you are like on an ordinary day. So the full seven live in the learners' area, alongside practice that actually has people in it.
先把這一段用起來。想走下去的時候,敲門。Start by using this one for real. When you want to go further, knock.
「凡事都有定期,天下萬務都有定時。」——傳道書 3:1"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven." — Ecclesiastes 3:1
任務不是壓力,是恩典給的時間表;任務失敗清單不是定罪,是回頭的路標;每一格填上的日期,都是這條路上真實走過的一步。The tasks are not pressure — they are the timetable grace gives. The task-failure list is not condemnation — it is a signpost pointing home. Every date you write down is one real step actually walked on this road.
卡在哪一項、想找人一起走,寫信到 Me2Us2We@gmail.com。想先看看這條路長什麼樣子,從 這裡開始。If you are stuck on an item and want someone to walk it with you, write to Me2Us2We@gmail.com. To see what this road looks like first, start here.
🤖 本頁的雙語文字由 AI 協助整理製作,並可能有自我更正。中文是原文,英文並列是為了讓你對得回原意;如發現與原意有出入,請來信 Me2Us2We@gmail.com 指正。The bilingual text on this page was prepared with AI assistance and may be corrected over time. The Chinese is the original; the English sits beside it so you can check it back against what was meant. If anything reads off, write to Me2Us2We@gmail.com.